The following piece is an excerpt from my book, “Word, From Your Mother,” a daily guidance journal written for my children, Liv and Pierce-Gabriel.
You’re not unusual because you wish to be alone. Being alone shouldn’t be equated with loneliness. These are two separate concepts. You are not being mean if you ask to be alone.
What are you doing when you’re alone? I do hope that you are taking the time to be still. I hope you’re shutting down the monkey brain and all its illusions to find your center. Perhaps you’re finding serenity in listening to music or reading a good book. Maybe, you’re chillin’ on your phone. Drawing or painting is always an excellent remedy. Even better is to do absolutely nothing.
It’s so important to be lazy, though not acceptable in our fast-moving, goal-oriented, deadlines culture. Most people think that be lazy or taking a rest is unproductive, but it truly is not. It’s the exact opposite.
Observe our dogs. What do they do all day if they’re not outside running around? The vast majority of their day, they’re resting, relaxing, and being. We criticize them for being lazy! Please take a look at their lives. They “be.” They are home alone for quite some time, but they don’t complain of loneliness.
Animals have a knowing that all is taken care of for them. They get petted, fed, bathed. They have all the essentials of life without having to take action. If you look closely at our human lives, we have the same thing. We were born with everything we need. All the stuff we buy, our jobs, cars, and schedules filling our lives are secondary. If it were all thrown away, we’d still have what we need, which is our being, essence, and life force, our energy, and each other.
Having alone time helps us recognize that in quiet solitude, we can appreciate all that we are and all we innately have. It brings us back to our center with a focus on our being. So, take the time to be alone without guilt or self-judgment. Quiet time helps you discover what is truly important. It allows us to recognize the “being” part of the human being.