How Your Contribution Affects All

The following piece is an excerpt from my book, “Word, From Your Mother,” a daily guidance journal written for my children, Liv and Pierce-Gabriel. I wrote this excerpt before the occurrence of the Covid-19 pandemic.

Excerpt #31

How did you sleep last night? I had nightmares all night because I sat and watched two episodes of that terrible, low energy show with you guys. You know what I’m talking about. I have to admit, it’s easy to get sucked into those types of shows. The writers make it provocative, so you can’t walk away. Even though it wasn’t violent, it was indeed sad and upsetting, which doesn’t resonate with me quite well (you know how sensitive I am).

In any event, this entry will be in my own voice and very familiar to you as I’ve spoken to you both about this topic many times. It is so important to avoid not only negative thoughts but anything negative, for that manner. Television and social media are prominent perpetrators for the promotion of negativity and violence. Don’t get me wrong, there’s a lot of good stuff out there, but the vast majority is not okay. 

As you know, Dad and I haven’t watched the news or listened to the radio for many years. We refuse to contribute to the insanity and brainwashing that is out there. How do you contribute? Making and contributing to all that crap out there by watching it, listening to it, and following it. You may say, “that (horror) movies won’t affect me and the way I think.” That may be true; however, by merely giving it attention, you add to the collective consciousness that does. I’d gather that’s a pretty big pool, and I don’t want to swim in it! 

Consciousness creates. As said in the Kybalion, “transmute that which is undesirable into that which is worthy, and thus triumph.” We are the creators of our universe. How will we untangle (transmute) the mess we’ve made from a conscious perspective? Many people aren’t even aware of what’s going on. Then, there are the people who are so radical, so consciously aware of what’s going on, that they choose the wrong paths to try to promote change. In other words, they get into ego wars (I’m right, you’re wrong), and that only exacerbates the situation right down into the rabbit hole of no return and little change. 

I try to dismiss the radical stuff going on out there in our physical world. I’m aware that it is our own making and hone in on my own contribution towards a greater good. Still, I know there are those out there like myself who believe that we, as collective energy, need to raise our vibration on Earth to feel the full effects of kindness, peace, and change.

I remember Eckhart Tolle quoting a famous monk who said that we must instill within “the radical refusal to harbor negative thoughts.” I take that advice a step further as I quietly state in my own mind, “I radically refuse to attend to the low energy of this negative____.” You can fill in the blank: person, show, advertisement, movie, broadcast, etc. What’s good about refusing? Quite a bit. If you don’t attend to it, you won’t judge it (which is also not our right), plus you don’t give it energy. You see, things begin to spiral when we feed into this sort of stuff. Energy gets created around it, and it can be challenging to transmute it as it builds up in your mind over time. Perceptions are created; thoughts become beliefs. Exposing oneself to lower energy can be very damaging over time. Even worse, it gets passed on from person to person and again builds and gives it more power. 

I’d much rather spend my time building upon the good stuff! We are temporary visitors here, and our time is but a blink in this physical reality. Choose your path wisely and know how many it affects, as we are all one.

Feel Your Wish Fulfilled

The following piece is an excerpt from my book, “Word, From Your Mother,” a daily guidance journal written for my children, Liv and Pierce-Gabriel.

Excerpt #30

What is your idea of fulfillment? Does it mean having a lot of things? Does it mean that your heart is content? Is it your idea of peace? When I think of the word fulfillment, I equate it with the feeling of contentment- that all is well and that my life is “full” of those things that bring me peace and joy. 

In his new book, Metahuman, Deepak Chopra explains fulfillment a bit differently. He describes it as the need for nothing. It is the need for nothing because you are enough in yourself. He says that it is the ego that is never satisfied and always needs something to have fulfillment. If “I” can only get that job, I’ll be satisfied. If “I” can only get that house on the water, I’ll be happy. If “I” could get a perfect grade average, I will receive recognition.

You will find that even if you have all these things, it will never be enough because true fulfillment comes with the soul’s alignment to the self. How does one acquire this? By being aware that you are aware. It all goes back to consciousness. If you are the silent onlooker of your thoughts and emotions, you can transmute them. The need to fulfill the “I” will eventually dwindle as you become aware that the need for things to feel fulfillment is an illusion. It’s a human-made concept of perceived happiness with the “having” of things. 

Wait a minute, then are we being superficial when we are manifesting something to be? Perhaps it’s in the wanting of something to fill a void. If you think of it in that manner, then as you are aware of it, you recognize that you are expressing lack. If you believe in lack thereof, then that is what will ultimately materialize. 

You can ask for something but then believe that you’ll never get it. That’s thinking on opposite ends of the pole. If you desire something because the “having of it” will bring along the feelings of satisfaction (for example, desiring peace), well, that’s very different. Then what you genuinely want is satisfaction, not a material object. A material object may show up by default in some manner or other, I suppose. For if we ask, it is given. Maybe that’s why Neville Goddard told us to skip to the end of the show. Go right to Act III to the wish fulfilled. Then you experience the feelings associated with the having of (whatever it is). 

Vibrating at a higher vibration promotes the fabrication of (whatever it is) in the material world. It all has to do with quantum physics. I’m no expert on quantum physics but do know that it’s an elementary understanding that “electrons and other particles are not real but exist only as ideas or concepts. They become real when someone asks questions about Nature, and depending on which question you ask, Nature obligingly supplies an answer.” (Heisenberg, as quoted by Deepak Chopra article on LinkedIn, December 23, 2019, Why You Can’t Always Believe Your Senses). 

Therefore, if you ask, it is given. The wish is fulfilled. So, for what are you asking. What do you choose to manifest, and why? Ponder this question daily to observe in which way you are serving yourself in the highest manner.

What About Reincarnation?

The following piece is an excerpt from my book, “Word, From Your Mother,” a daily guidance journal written for my children, Liv and Pierce-Gabriel.

Excerpt #29

Do you believe in reincarnation of the spirit? I know that your foundation in religion started with Catholicism. I wanted to make sure that you were both introduced to Christianity so that you may learn about the life and teachings of Jesus. Jesus was and is a great teacher of humility and grace. I do hope that your heart is linked with him, always.

I’m just finishing up reading the book Jesus and the Essenes by Dolores Cannon. What a great piece of writing. Dolores was a very well know hypnotherapist who specialized in regression. Regression involves taking people back into their past lives through hypnotism. If you believe in reincarnation, then you will understand why some people like to revisit their past lives– to figure out what they might need to work on or what may be inhibiting their progress in their current life. I don’t feel this is necessary if you choose to live in the present moment. What is done can’t be undone, and supposedly with each lifetime, one is evolving, not sliding backward. So, why go back there?

I have to admit that I did go to a past-life regressionist therapist once. I didn’t like what I conjured up because it involved tragedy and sadness. Plus, it didn’t do me any good with my present life besides affirming certain repetitive (negative) feelings that keep coming up in my life. It is all part of the work. Those feelings are certainly not as bad now, as they were then; however, to conjure them up didn’t do me any good in terms of my evolution.

Getting back to the book, the regressed person (a woman) was a man in the past who was a teacher to Jesus and John the Baptist. They were studying in a beautiful community of peoples known as the Essenes. It is believed that the Essenes were the initiators of early Christian beliefs and the traditions of baptism, the Eucharist, and others (what we would refer to as sacraments).

As the story unfolded, Suddi (pronounced like Saudi) described his experiences as a teacher of young Jesus and John the Baptist. When he was older, Jesus began to minister his teachings worldwide. Though Suddi was no longer alive during the crucifixion, Delores contacted Suddi on the inner plane (a resting place before souls decide whether to return for another “assignment” on the earthly plane). Her prerogative was to ask Suddi what was taking place during the crucifixion and what it all meant. I like that she framed her authorship as being open to the translation. As described by Suddi, it had an impeccable resemblance to what is currently written in the Bible today. However, there were new things brought to light with Suddi’s interpretation.

I believe them to be an accurate translation of what Jesus wanted us to know. It is a much more intuitive translation and seems more “Christ-like.” In other words, what he brought to light seems much more an accurate interpretation of what Jesus would have told us directly.

Suddi explained that Jesus didn’t return in the flesh. He returned as a being of light (often what we refer to as an angel). If one were to touch him as Peter-Simon did in the Bible interpretation, he wouldn’t have felt Jesus’s flesh. Suddi explained that Jesus appeared as a sort of apparition still with his wounds present. He presented with his wounds to demonstrate that one can come back reincarnated as the same person who had left. And, also to make the vital point that we do come back. The spirit body/energy sometimes returns as a light entity, sometimes as within a new “container,” or body. Jesus believed that he was once Moses or Adam and that John the Baptist was Elijah, reincarnated. One thing is for sure; energy can’t be created nor destroyed. Everything is energy. The pointer that I’d like you to take away with this excerpt is that our souls are eternal. We don’t die; therefore, we always “be.” Perhaps this is why we are called beings. True, the human part of us dissolves, but the being forever remains.

How To Feel The Love

The following piece is an excerpt from my book, “Word, From Your Mother,” a daily guidance journal written for my children, Liv and Pierce-Gabriel.

Excerpt #28

We are on the verge of a new year! A time for a fresh start and a new beginning. What will be your focus? What are you manifesting? I’d like to hone in on love. How can one best envelope love or share it? It seems such a simple concept and, indeed, the main focus of Jesus’ teachings.

I believe that one must feel the feeling of love within to honestly and freely share it. In all that I’ve learned, you have to feel what it is you desire. This desire comes with knowing that you are already in possession of it. I often refer to this in acquiring material items, but how about nonmaterial things such as love? 

Doesn’t it make sense that you won’t acquire material stuff unless you feel the immaterial stuff? In other words, I’m sure in my heart that if I have faith (belief without seeing)— in knowing that I’m completely loved and of love, that I will have everything I so desire. God sees us as unlimited. We can be, wish, desire, and have anything we want to have in this lifetime and beyond. Does it not take faith and love to understand and believe this? 

If we lack love, how can we ever honestly wish and receive all we desire? It seems counter-intuitive. You can wish to have something but then feel that you will never get it. You have to expect, imagine, and know that you already have it without paying mind to any feelings of lack, worthiness, etc. Isn’t this the same as feeling the love within? 

If you always think that you are incapable, not worthy of giving or receiving love…then, how will it come about? You ask…well, how do I feel the love? Or what does love feel like? I’ve always had a difficult time describing this because I’ve conceptualized love too much. If I were to express love in words, I’d see images of both of you as newborns. The feeling in my heart is an utter joy to the point of ecstasy!

When I try to put my heart in the feeling of love, I have to create an image in my mind’s eye—our pup’s little sugar powdered mouth, the sense of her soft ears. Sometimes, it’s a difficult practice for me for some reason. Many mystics would refer to this as the veil that shrouds us, which keeps us disconnected from our true self—the ego as it were. 

With practice and concentration, through meditation, open your heart to the feelings of love. Try to feel it internally. Coax these feelings through imagery and loving memories. Don’t push it aside or forget it. Live each day with a loving spirit. See those around you—even those you don’t particularly care for with love in your heart towards them. 

The feelings of love are at the highest vibration possible. Nothing is higher than the vibration of love! I believe nothing is attainable unless you can love, no matter what your situation. 

A practice that I enjoy doing is passing love to others randomly. When I see a beautiful child, I give the blessing of love. When I’m near a co-worker who touches my heart due to their dedication, I silently bless and thank them with love. When I see you both together—dancing and being playful or even bickering with each other, I thank and bless you both with love. This is how the work is done. It is a practice worth embracing!

How to Evolve Your Being

The following piece is an excerpt from my book, “Word, From Your Mother,” a daily guidance journal written for my children, Liv and Pierce-Gabriel.

Excerpt #27

If you want to evolve as a human being:

  1. Focus on having a higher concept of self.
  2. Pay attention to self-talk.
  3. what you are manifesting

I read a recent interview with a favorite author of mine. As part of his daily meditation practice, he said that he pays close attention throughout the day to the negative chatter in his head. To resolve this, he suggests that you repeat the negative thought to yourself to recognize it but not judge it. He claims that this is the best way to dissolve negative thoughts. For example, if you hear yourself saying, “I am not good enough,” repeat with, “Thinking I’m not good enough.” Here, you can recognize it as only a thought and not a belief that would submit to the subconscious. 

Remember, we often attract what we believe to be true. So, it is essential to focus our attention on the positive things in life. If you put aside all the concepts, perceptions, beliefs, obsessive thoughts, you’ll find that we are in a perfect place where rights and wrongs don’t exist. Rights and wrongs come from the ego. They are human-made. So is the concept of time. There is no past or future. There is only this “now” moment. If you think about it, the stuff that happened before this moment was the “now” of that moment. Life is a continuous stream. 

Getting back to attention, it is our attention that creates worlds, according to my teachers. With concentration, awareness, and consciousness to whatever-it-may-be, we create concepts and circumstances that manifest into physical things, our tangible outcomes, and our effects. It pertains to everything we give our attention to. 

You both have wondered why I don’t watch the news or anything violent. It is because I choose not to give my attention to it, as whatever locks into my consciousness also attaches to the collective consciousness, and it builds. It creates worlds! Why would I want to fuel attention toward anything of that nature? I don’t know about you, but I’m not particularly eager to contribute to that sort of mindset or that type of world. It doesn’t engender peace, kindness, empathy, or compassion. It draws us away from our inner sanctum, where all possibilities reside and awaken.

Part of self-evolution and developing a higher concept of self is to create your ideal self. You do this by transmuting your thoughts and aligning them with the desired outcome through your imagination, which is the “I AM” part of you or the divinity within. Your self-concept determines your outer or external situation. If you say/think, “I am unwell.” It will manifest. If you are unwell but imagine your ideal self as well, it will manifest. However, to do this, what you think and what you feel must be in alignment. The feeling of wellness must be committed to the subconscious. It would be best if you assumed the feeling of wellness as your ideal. Beliefs change matter.

Believing is Seeing

Neville Goddard described the difference between faith and prayer as such. “Prayer is the act of believing what is denied by the senses, and faith is belief, not seen. The latter is a bit easier to grasp. Believing what is denied by the senses points to the subconscious mind. In other words, whatever you supplant there through prayer, manifests into the wish fulfilled. The subconscious self is the divine within. It is what connects us all together as one with Source. It is the cause of voluntary action. The mystics often refer to the subjective mind, which doesn’t point to the senses (seeing, hearing, touching, smelling). It is the opposite of the objective self or conscious self. 

Again, Goddard explained, “the subconscious mind is what man is, the conscious mind is what man knows.” Understanding the dual nature of consciousness is key to having all wishes, desires, and prayers answered. This all seems a science, but it’s effortless to grasp on a conceptual level. 

It’s just challenging to put into practice! It’s important to accept “what is” in life. This is how one lives in the present. However, when you pray, turn your attention from “what is” to what it ought to be or what you desire it to be. Assume that your wish is already fulfilled. Feel the wish fulfilled. 

The subconscious mind (that auto-programmed area of your brain) doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong, good or bad. It moves the energy within you through the feelings that you feel. This is what your vibration truly is. Let’s say that your prayer is for peace. Act as though you already have it. That vibration of energy is what you are sending out and that which you will receive. 

If you complain and are hopeless, you are vibrating at a deficient level—then that is what you’ll attract in your life. Many of my teachers have said that “you create your own reality.” This is true. How does one do this? Well, many would say through your active thoughts and beliefs. As Abraham would say, “A belief is a thought you keep thinking over and over.” If your thinking is negative, “I am a failure,” this will eventually become a belief. Why? Because you believe that you’re a failure. There is your vibration! Not a very good one. 

So, change your thoughts by imagining them differently. What are your “I AM” statements? Your “I AM” affirmations are your subconscious, all knowing, subjective feelings. I AM the essence of the divine. There is no way that I can fail. There is nothing that I can’t do or have. Again, be the onlooker of the background noise. Don’t judge what you observe. Just recognize it and transmute it. 

Transmutation, through your imagination, awakens the prophet within. If you don’t want to be poor, give more to others, act as though you’re rich. If you don’t want to fail, act like an achiever. If you don’t want to be sad, spread happiness. If you don’t want to be lonely, serve others. Fake it til’ you make it. The universe doesn’t know the difference. Matthew 21:22 And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.

How To Express Thanksgiving

The following piece is an excerpt from my book, “Word, From Your Mother,” a daily guidance journal written for my children, Liv and Pierce-Gabriel.

Excerpt #25

I was speaking to an older friend of mine this weekend. I told her that I’m impatient with the unfolding of my life. My ego has a way of agitating me. It distracts me from the “now” by always thinking about the future. I do know that life unfolds magically with perfect timing for any given situation or scenario. However, the ego often works to inject my own personal preferences about how things should be working out. Suppose these things are not aligned with what I deem appropriate. In that case, I will internally and eternally get on the” train” of a complaint. This is not a good thing!

Situations often don’t go as you thought, hoped, wished, or planned with good reason. It’s because everything happens in divine timing. My friend reminded me of the teachings of Abraham. For example, say, you’re in a funk because things aren’t going your way. In my case, I feel as though I’ve been stuck in a job that isn’t satisfying. Though it’s not my preference to work in the field of education, I clearly recognize, daily, evidence of how accepting my role has positively affected others.

I try to remain positive (by raising my vibration just a bit). If I’m doing it by default, I know that by keeping things positive, my momentum will increase and bring about my desires (of doing something different). Abraham, the entity expressed by Esther Hicks, explains that if you ask for everything to change all at once, it doesn’t work. It would be like jumping on a teeter-totter at full speed when your vibration “isn’t there yet.” Indeed, you’d fly right off.

Catching up to speed happens when you raise your vibration a little bit at a time; until you’re ready to “jump on the teeter totter” and receive your next assignment. If you’re mindful, you’ll recognize when something happens at just the right time. You’ll say things like, “This____ happened just when it was needed.” Or, “I can’t believe that things are going so well.” You will see synchronicities occurring more frequently.

When I asked my friend how can I raise my frequency even more, she replied, “Always express appreciation in your life.” We hear this often by writing in a gratitude journal and being thankful for what we have through prayer and meditation. When you’re right in the moment of feeling dissatisfied, this is when you should recognize all that you should be grateful for. Be the active observer and express appreciation for “what is” right now.

I appreciate that I have a drive and desire to be the best I can be regardless of my career. I’m appreciative of the kind people who surround me at work. I’m so grateful that my supervisor trusts in my ability. I’m thankful to serve others in any capacity. I appreciate that I can view my work as a spiritual practice. We often take for granted the good stuff.

Give Your Heart the Task

The following piece is an excerpt from my book, “Word, From Your Mother,” a daily guidance journal written for my children, Liv and Pierce-Gabriel.

Excerpt #20

Our brain is not capable of solving internal issues. This task is for the heart, which scientists claim functions as a little brain in and of itself. I’m sure you’ve heard of the expression to “think with your heart.” 

The mind is a problem solver. It’s much better to solve external issues such as equations or produce ideas to create big things. However, the brain cannot fix a problem within. Only the heart is cut out (no pun intended) for this type of task. 

If your feelings are hurting, don’t turn towards the external world to seek refuge or get a quick fix because you won’t find it. You can try all sorts of things to fill the void or solve the inner issue with your mind’s requests, but it won’t work. It’s like asking a car to drive without the driver within. Many people shop or fill their lives with material things, but this is just a quick fix; temporary satisfaction. Some people turn to the bottle or drugs, thinking that addiction can somehow mask the pain. Again, this is just a temporary fix as it causes further dis-ease. 

Some people project their ill feelings and seek solutions through others; this doesn’t work at all. A relationship with someone else won’t fix you, even if it seems a healthy one. Only you can heal you. You have limitless solutions and possibilities within your heart. You have to trust and turn to your heart. Ask it questions. Be still and listen. You will receive answers once you let go of the ego’s melodrama and all those spiraling crazy stories made up in your head. It’s not an easy thing to do; it does become better with practice. 

As you quiet your mind and become still, focus on a nice and easy breathing pattern. Imagine yourself in your sacred place or a relaxing place. Feel it, smell it. Then go inside and ask, for example, if you’re feeling sad, “Dear heart, my dear heart, please guide me to peace as I have the feeling of sadness. Show me in images, forms, or words, what will help.” Then wait for your message or messages. 

Don’t be discouraged if nothing comes up right away. Just remain relaxed and breathe and allow yourself the time to decompress and relieve the tension within. Eventually, you will receive your answers, and with it will come a wash of calming contentment. 

Sometimes, suppose you feel particularly wound up. In that case, the best thing to do is to recognize the feelings of illness or sadness and say, “I choose to acknowledge and surrender these feelings. Or, I recognize how I’m feeling, and I’ll be okay because things are always working out for me.” Thinking in this way reinforces my previous pointers to always turn to the better feeling thought. It will transform you. In Hermetic philosophy, this is called transmutation. Only, instead of transmuting silver to gold such as the ancient alchemists did, you are transmuting negative thoughts into positive ones. Remember, your thoughts materialize and reflect your soul energy. Put some good stuff out there as your external state reflects your inner state.

You Already Have It

The following piece is an excerpt from my book, “Word, From Your Mother,” a daily guidance journal written for my children, Liv and Pierce-Gabriel.

Excerpt #24

Apparently, the best way to have your wish or desire fulfilled is to imagine that you already have it. Neville Goddard said that “Christ is awakened through human imagination.” He recommends this practice. First, set your objective. In other words, know what it is that you desire or want. Then, have a waking dream about your desire. Define and accept this dream as a physical reality.

Try this. Close your eyes are and put yourself in the space of your wish fulfilled. For example, say you desire to visit a tropical island such as Barbados. Imagine yourself with all of your senses there. If you’re having this waking dream while sitting in your bed, mentally remove all aspects of the room you’re in, including the ground. Replace it with the lounge chair you’re reclined on at the beach. Smell the ocean, sense the warmth of the sun, feel the sand on your toes as you drop a foot down from the lounge chair. Hear the sea…the ebb and the flow of the waves.

How do you feel? This is the most essential part of manifesting this wish. The energy which is associated with the wish fulfilled is what draws it to you. Some call this the law of attraction. Goddard refers to it as the law of reversibility. I believe that we create our realities by our thoughts and the energy produced by the feelings aligned with those thoughts.

Be mindful as you manifest your desires. If you start at point A of your probable wish-“I want to go to Barbados,” but become too specific in your thoughts about it: “How will I get the money? When will I be able to go? I’m broke. I’ll never get the time off from work. What exactly are you attracting? All roadblocks. Therefore, this is what will manifest. You are pinching yourself off from possibilities.

How can you manifest the seemingly impossible desire? Remember to use your imagination! Pretend as though you were a little child when you weren’t robbed of using your imagination. Write it down. “I’m already there. I feel exhilarated by the sun and warmth. Isn’t it nice knowing that I’m here in Barbados? I just love it here. My body and soul are rejuvenated.” Feel the feelings of your fulfilled wish. In other words, skip to the chase. Instead of watching Act I to Act III in the play of life, go right to Act III. Imagine it is already done, and you are already there!

How To Not Get Triggered

The following piece is an excerpt from my book, “Word, From Your Mother,” a daily guidance journal written for my children, Liv and Pierce-Gabriel.

Excerpt #23

Try this exercise sometime: Don’t react to something when you’re “triggered.” This is very difficult to do if you have a busy ego. At any other time, I wouldn’t have reacted to the scenario that follows; however, when a couple of people add their two cents, the “story” started to develop.

I had forgotten to add Auntie’s name as one of our family members in this year’s Christmas card. I didn’t notice the omission. However, Meema called straight away in a frenzy. She said, “How could you forget Aunt Fran out of all people? She’s going to be offended… she’s going to think you don’t care… she’s going to be really upset…etc.

Now, initially, I calmly stated, “Really, Ma, it was an honest mistake. I meant no harm.” Then she went on another rant and implored that I needed to call her immediately to explain this matter. Honestly, the conversation carried on with my seven apologies in between for about 20 minutes.

When the conversation was over, I felt that I’d take action as soon as possible to clear things up. I was baffled that I made an editorial mistake. I also made a mental note to further apologize to Auntie that I had remembered to include the dog’s name but not hers!

Later that day, I called Papa to give him updates about how things were going our way. Wouldn’t you know, he brought up the whole Auntie thing. He said, “How did you forget this? Do you realize that your aunt is sensitive and this is not going to go over well…you should know what’s going to happen; you lived with her (triggered)…did Doug help you do these cards? (triggered).”

I started to defend myself profusely and added that if my husband were involved with making the card, there would not have been an omission. He carried on for at least a half-hour. I told him I had called auntie, but she didn’t pick up. I continued to defend my ego by stating that I would never leave a message because that would surely make her more upset. I explained that I would stop at nothing until I reached her. I also explained that she doesn’t pick up the phone unless she recognizes the number. Oh, my…I went on and on and on.

All the while, I was very conscious of my defensiveness. My true self (that little quiet voice within) had told me instantly, upon the first reveal from Meema of my mistake, that Auntie would forgive and that she’d be okay with all of this. However, the “unconscious me” took over, inserting many apologies and attached a zillion “stories” to what might happen. This, of course, did not serve the matter at all. It only caused me great anxiety and strengthened the ego. I had allowed the ego to high jack my consciousness of the situation; the still part of me that says, “All is fine. There is nothing to be worried about.”

Later that evening, when I was shopping, the cell phone rang. It was auntie. She said, “Oh, my God…is Doug okay? I’ve been praying for him ever since I saw your number come up (Doug had just recently had surgery).” I reassured her that everything was okay and told her my reason for calling–that I had omitted her name from the family Christmas card. Her reaction: “What? That’s it? Who cares!! I thought someone was sick!” She started to laugh and said, “Let everyone guess who I am. I don’t care if my name is on the card.”

In short, if I had listened to my inner guidance, I would not have fed into all the egoic drama. Further, I wouldn’t have created a story around it. If I had just stopped at, “I forgot to put Auntie’s name on the card,” and just let it be, all would have been fine. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you act as though you have no filter. Don’t get me wrong. I still would have called her and apologized for the omission.

Consequently, there wouldn’t have been undesirable stress, anxiety, or other negative emotions in my energy field to add to the so-called problem. Be an active observer of how you react to things. Catch the negative thoughts and feelings as quickly as possible and let them dissolve. You’d be amazed at how often the ego tries to highjack a situation to throw your energy field off.