The following piece is an excerpt from my book, “Word, From Your Mother,” a daily guidance journal written for my children, Liv and Pierce-Gabriel.
What are your thoughts and feelings towards setting goals? I feel that goal setting is a good motivational tool, however, you shouldn’t place emotional attachment towards the completion of a goal. In other words, try not to solely focus its outcome, enjoy the process and evolution of your goal while striving to attain it.
There are so many valuable lessons to learn before a goal can come to fruition. Careful planning and patience are key. Perseverance and optimism are catalysts as well.
Some goals are short term and easy to achieve. “Today, I will finish 5 loads of laundry in the basement.” Others are more daunting and require a good amount of will power, determination, and endurance. “I will obtain a master’s Degree in Business.”
It’s usually easy to initiate a goal. It is more daunting to achieve it. During the process you might hit a roadblock and want to give up. Don’t give up! Draw your attention towards the associated feelings of achieving your goal. How will it feel once you get that master’s degree? Make that your focus no matter how long it will take.
All goals are attainable if you desire them enough. Sometimes, in the middle of achieving a goal, you may want to alter it. Perhaps, in the beginning, the goal served a purpose in your life, then through the process of trial and error, you determined it wasn’t a good fit.
This doesn’t mean you have to give it up, but instead, alter it to make it more achievable. In other words, recognize how the goal can be modified or reformulated to meet your expectations. There’s always a solution to every perceived problem.
No matter what, there is no failure in goal setting. Every experience you have in life leads you to the next greatest chapter. If your intentions are right-minded respectful of how they make you feel, you’re on the right path.
I recall a recent quote from a spiritual teacher. He said, “Right action emerges out of presence, living in the now.” Don’t let anything get you down, especially “failures,” in life, such as an unaccomplished goal.
Beautiful awakenings come out of the dark experiences. If we can expect, accept, and flow with these experiences like paddling downstream in a river, all will be well. Resistance to “what is,” is synonymous with paddling upstream. It’s an exhausting struggle that will get you nowhere. Set realistic goals and go with the flow, as it will move you in the right direction.